Has anyone said hurtful words to you?
Have you ever been back-stabbed?
Wala ka namang ginagawa na masama, maayos naman ang pakikitungo mo sa kanila, pero parating ikaw na lang kinakayan-kayanan at ginagawang punching bag.
Minsan nga, mas maganda na saktan ka na lang physically, dahil pwedeng gumaling ang sugat. Pero ang mental and emotional pain ay mahirap pagdaanan.
Ito pa ang masakit, the closer the person is to you, the more painful it becomes.
Hindi natin maiiwasang masaktan dahil kung sino pa yung inaasahan natin, sila pa mismo ang humihila sa atin pababa.
Ano nga ba ang pwedeng gawin when you are being emotionally abused?
RESPOND, DO NOT REACT
Ang common reaction kapag tayo ay nasaktan ay MAGHIGANTI.
Pero if we also start hurling insulting and hurting words against them, then ang tanong, “ano ang pinagkaiba natin sa kanila?” Sometimes, they even use it against you. Ipagkakalat pa na ikaw ang naninira sa kanila. Pero hindi naman nila iku-kuwento na sila ang nag umpisa.
DIVERT YOUR ATTENTION
Kung medyo nararamdaman mo na mapupunta sa hindi magandang comment ang inyong usapan, excuse yourself and do something else. Politely tell them, “Excuse me lang po, may gagawin lang ako.”
“As much as I want to stay and chat, but I have to go.”
Mas magandang hindi mo na ito marinig kaysa bumigat lang ang loob mo o baka masira lang ang araw mo at mas lalong lumaki ang gap niyo.
TALK TO THE PERSON IN PRIVATE
Lumalaki na ba ang problema? Then it is time to confront. Kahit mahirap kailangan gawin ito. Kapag hindi nakakapag-usap ang dalawang tao, lalo magkakaroon ng gap o misunderstanding. Until you are able to talk to the person, don’t judge the person yet.
In this way, since kayong dalawa lang, pwede niyo na masabi sa isa’t-isa ang mga hinaing ninyo.
Don’t be afraid to share what you feel because this might just open an opportunity for reconciliation and healing. At the end of the day, it is better to be at peace rather than to live in turmoil.
THINK. REFLECT. APPLY.
May mga tao ka bang nakakasakit ng iyong damdamin?
How do you deal with them?
Paano mo ito maiiwasan o malalampasan ng hindi ka nagiging disrespectful?
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