How To Deal With Haters

Haters gonna hate, ika nga. If people hate us, wala kang magagawa. Totoong we can’t control how people treat us, but we can control our response towards them. Napaka-ikli ng buhay para intindihin pa natin ang mga taong walang ibang ginawa kundi i-bash tayo, siraan tayo, i-discourage tayo at samantalahin ang kahinaan natin. Masasayang lang ang oras and energy natin kung didibdibin natin ang mga ginagawa nila against us.

Kaya para sa mga may haters, ito lang ang ang masasabi ko:

DEADMAHIN SILA

We cannot please everybody. Meron at merong mga tao na di sasang-ayon sa iyo at hindi matutuwa sa ginagawa mo. Kaya kung papansinin at papatulan mo pa sila, masasayang lang ang effort mo. Mag-focus ka nalang sa ibang bagay. Nakakalungkot nga dahil kahit anong gawin mo, laging may comment ang mga tao. May gawin kang maganda, may comment sila. May gawin kang masama, syempre may comment parin sila. Hindi mauubos ang puna, pintas at comment ng mga tao. Most of the time hindi mo na alam kung saan mo pa ba ilulugar ang sarili mo. Pero ito lang ang maipapayo ko, as long as you are doing what is right and pleasing in God’s eyes, you have nothing to worry about.

FOCUS ON THE THE POSITIVE AND NOT ON THE NEGATIVE

Piliin at salain mo lang ang mga comments at mga bagay na makakatulong sayo. Yung mga ‘negative feeds’ ay huwag mo na i-entertain. Huwag na natin itong pagmuni-munihan at alagaan sa ating mga puso’t isipan. It will just lower our self esteem, make us bitter and revengeful at higit sa lahat it will make our lives miserable. It’s really not worth it. So better focus our attention, energy and time on the positive.

LEARN FROM IT

Hangga’t humihinga tayo, the learning should never stop. We should learn from our experiences. Pangit man ito o maganda, we should always use our experiences to make us better as a person. These haters should mold our characters, and not the other way around. Hindi worth it kung magiging #beastmode tayo when people do bad things against us, tayo rin ang masisira. Let’s just evaluate ourselves and ask these questions:

Anong nagawa ko?
May pagkukulang ba ako?
Anong gagawin ko next time na ma-experience ko ito?
Anong natutunan ko sa karanasang ito?

Even Jesus had haters. Imagine? Diyos na yun pero may mga haters pa rin. People mocked, cursed and beat Him. The world hated Him first. Kaya naman we should never feel alone because God himself experienced what we are going through. He sees every tear, hears every cry and listens to our sentiments. He knows exactly what you feel because He has been there. If you are doing what is pleasing in His eyes, you can be sure that He is with you, and if He is with you who can be against you? Be still, take heart, God is with you.

THINK. REFLECT. REPLY.

How do you respond to your haters?
Where is your focus?
What have you learned from your experiences?