HOW TO DEAL WITH YOUR IN-LAWS?

Kaway kaway sa mga taong ikakasal na
o kinasal na at nakikisama pa sa in-laws!
Kamusta naman kayo?

“Nakakainis, lagi na lang nakabuntot sa amin”
“Siya na lang parati nasusunod”
“Ganyan pala ugali ng magulang ng asawa ko”

O ‘Teh, ‘Kyah, kalma lang po!
Kahit bali-baliktarin natin ‘yan,
Magulang pa rin ng asawa natin iyan.

Maaring hindi maganda ang simula
at hindi nagkakasundo dahil:

• Magkaiba tayo ng opinyon at kultura
• Hindi tayo makapagbigay ng sustento
• Nagseselos sa atin, o
• Iba ang ang kanilang pamamalakad

…gayon pa man, hindi naman natin
kailangang umabot sa puntong
kailangan pang mag-away at mag parinigan.

Hindi magandang nagtatalo tayo
at nagkakasiraan dahil lang sa ating
differences and misunderstanding.

Kung talagang may issue na
at tayo’y nasasaktan na sa pakikitungo sa atin:

TALK TO YOUR SPOUSE in-laws

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Talk to your spouse in such a way
na hindi naman tayo parang batang
tumatakbo para magsumbong.

Let us do it maturely and with
an open heart and mind.

“Hindi yata kami nagkaintindihan ng Mama mo”
“Ano kaya pwede gawin para ma clear ang issue?”
“May mali ata kami nasabi sa isa’t isa, kasi ganito yun…”

Be objective.

Kung may mali tayo, aminin natin.
Kung sila naman ang may mali,
allow them to tell their story first
at huwag tayo kaagad magbuhat ng sariling
bangko para lang maging bida sa mata ng ating spouse.

Talk to resolve an issue
at hindi para magturuan kung sino ang tama at mali.

NEVER DISRESPECT THEM  in-laws 

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Kung baga magulang na rin natin ‘yan
mula noong pinakasalan natin ang anak nila.
And we all know that parents shouldn’t be disrespected.

Sabi nga:

“Honor you mother and father”

Ibig sabihin, kahit may mali,
wala tayong karapatang bastusin sila
at tratuhin na parang kaaway
o kakumpitensya.

Napapag-usapan naman ang lahat ng bagay.
If we think that we have done our part
and still wala pa rin nangyari,
let go and let God.

Kahit magmala armalite pa tayo
just to make them realize something,
remember that WE CAN’T CHANGE THEM.

Labas na lang sa kabilang tenga at…

SILA AY IPAGDASAL in-laws 

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Hindi naman natin maiiwasan na tayo
ay masaktan lalo na kung
hindi na maganda ang pakikitungo sa atin.

It’s okay to cry, it’s okay to feel upset
but more importantly, it is God who can change them.
Kaya no matter how upset we are,
never forget to pray for them.

Alam naman ni Lord ang nilalaman
ng ating mga puso at kung gaano tayo
ka-sincere na may mabago sa relasyon natin.

Dasal lang ng dasal na sana
magkaroon ng realization and change..
In HIS TIME and not OUR TIME.

“Ang ating mga biyenan ay para na rin nating tunay na magulang.
Kaya tratuhin sila ng mabuti kahit anong mangyari at si Lord na ang bahala sa reward natin.”
-Chinkee Tan, Filipino Motivational Speaker

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